The Reconciliation Week theme 'In this together' is now resonating in ways we could not have foreseen when it was announced last year, but it reminds us whether in a crisis or in reconciliation we are all #InThisTogether.
In the spirit of reconciliation and to help our Team and Board at SQ Landscapes better understand and work with our region’s First Peoples, this week we took part in a special online event to hear from two amazing Queenslanders. Elders Aunty Ruth Hegarty and Uncle Herb Wharton kindly gave some of their time to recount their respective stories about what it was like for them growing up Aboriginal in Australia and their views on the path to reconciliation.
Aunty Ruth Hegarty of the Gunggari People
Aunty Ruth is almost 91 years old. “There aren’t too many people older than me,” she says.
Ruth and her mother Ruby travelled from their home in Mitchell when she was just 6 months old to Cherbourg which the family thought would be just for a little while. Confined by the rules of the ‘Protection Act’ Ruby and Ruth were forced to stay in Cherbourg and were placed in the dormitory system.
Aunty Ruth lived in a dormitory in Cherbourg with around 60 other girls where they were treated like prisoners despite committing no crimes. Mothers would live on one side of the dorm and children on the other side.
The children were whipped, punished physically and psychologically for minor misdemeanours and when she was just 4 years old, Ruth’s mother was sent away to work, causing the pair to lose contact.
Most of us can’t fathom growing up like this or having our mothers taken away from us at four years old, but this was just the beginning of her journey.
10 years later at 14 years old, Ruth herself was sent away from the Cherbourg Mission to work as a domestic servant. She felt alone, isolated and vulnerable travelling to work for strangers.
She experienced no freedom for 22 years before persuading her husband to leave Cherbourg for Brisbane so that their children could live a better life, which they eventually did only because he had an exemption as part of the 1967 referendum. Without this exemption, she was not allowed to leave Cherbourg.
“I spent 20 or so years of my life in Cherbourg, before realising that wasn’t the place for me. Living life in Cherbourg almost taught me not to speak out to those in power.”
“I’ve never known myself to be an Aborigine, because no one ever said 'you’re Aboriginal' – but I found out what it was like when I got married.”
Ruth fell in love, but her husband treated her the same way she had been treated as a dormitory girl.
“The first thing he said to me was ‘I own you’, but I didn’t want to be owned. For the next 15 years he had complete control over my life.”
Photo: Supplied. Aunty Ruth with her mother Ruby.
Ruth has eight children, one adopted, 36 grandchildren, 72 great grandchildren and 29 great great grandchildren.
She didn’t know about her father until she was 56 years old and met all of her half brothers and sisters in Mitchell when she went back. She wasn’t able to learn the Gunggarri language of her people growing up, and is still learning about it now at 90 years old. “It’s a beautiful language,” she says.
Ruth remained connected with the dormitory girls she had grown up with. “We would only talk about life in the dorm to one another, never our children or other people. Those women are my sisters – my family.”
“Before my husband died, he told me to write about my experiences, and by doing this over the past 30 years, I have found myself.”
In Aunty Ruth’s two published books ‘Is that you Ruthie?’ and ‘Bittersweet Journey’, she recounts her personal history as one of the Stolen Generation, her married life, her dealings with the Native Affairs Department and her work in community politics and indigenous organisations. Nowadays, she continues to recount her experiences by public speaking, as an author and writing articles for Facebook.
About reconciliation Aunty Ruth says, “It has to come through acknowledgement, that’s how reconciliation will happen.”
“Acknowledging our language like naming streets after Aboriginal people, let’s do more of that, instead of naming things after Captain Cook.”
“It is important to understand the history of this country, this country belongs to Aboriginal people and we are very willing to share. We need to teach our children the stories too – I’ve got grandchildren of all colours; blue eyes, green eyes, brown eyes, red hair, brown skin - they need to know their story, it’s a shared history.”
“Reconciliation is something I love. I love to think we are reconciled with one another. I have never been an enemy with the white man. Reconciliation is people coming together, we must close this gap. Reconciliation will only come when the gap is closed. We live in a better Australia now. We have no enemies except the one we make for ourselves.”
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Photo: Supplied. Aunty Ruth today.